I have read a story/post about a group wanting prayers from a community for a woman who just found out that her husband has been cheating on her and that he didn’t love her anymore. Okay, granted it sucks… really bad. I’ve been there myself. Let’s be real, it’s hurts like hell.

Yes it happens, it happens more than we think. Most of us are too scared to really share it to to many for fear we look like failures. We only tell certain people, the ones who will give us what we need. For example if you’re seeking out sympathy, you would not go to a friend who is always strong and doesn’t need a man in her life to make it complete. That person would not fill that need. Instead you go to someone who will share your emotions and feed you the sympathy you’re seeking. Because really when you’re feeling down do you really want to be told to suck it up? Read more

Are you currently in a relationship?

If so is what you thought it would be? Are you working at it or are you trying to figure a way out?

All to often we get trapped in a fairly tale we were told as youngster and we carry that with us into our adult relationships. However the other person you’re with did not hear the story the same way you did if they even heard it at all.

In most relationships we have this fantasy about how we think it should be, but what if I told you that the relationship really needs to break apart in order for it work…..

Unless you have open communication and are both working at it together then you are merely waiting for the other person to understand a story that you were told even before you could walk on your own.

What if I were to tell you that we are all broken from these stories, along the way we discovered that no everyone likes the same story as you do. We slowly break away these tales and as healing goes, it forms a layer over it to protect itself. Then it gets ripped off again and again and then you’re both in a relationship where both people are broken with their wounds pretending it’s all going to be ok. Because love has entered the picture you feel hope once again that this person will finally love you the way you believe you should be loved from your story.

However two broke people only end up breaking more things. Hurt people only go around trying to hurt others. Time will continue no matter what, you have to decide what it is you really want because chances are you both are just going through the process, you share a home together, sleep in the same bed, maybe and have children together. From the outside all looks picture perfect but you are still broken and as more time goes on, you resent the other for not helping you to heal and fix your brokenness but how can they when they are broken as well.

Are you just going through the motions or are you actively working at healing one another. We can only begin to heal when we feel we have a safe space to do so.