Who do we really think a hero is?
The standard dictionary defines a hero as a person who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities.
That definition can be interpreted in many ways really, so why do we always think of a hero as someone who has fought in a war, or saved a life? I don’t mean to downplay that, because YES – those people are absolutely heroes. BUT – what about the everyday person who is fighting a battle within themselves and still manages to plant their feet on the floor every morning and do what they need to do to survive?
Yep, I’d say so.
The everyday hero often gets overlooked and, at times, we know those heroes. They are our co-workers, the single mothers, the fathers, the people fighting mental illness, the teenage mother who put her child up for adoption, and the addicts who got clean. These are only examples of what a hero can look like because there are many more heroes out there!
What about when you want to say, ” I love you,” but you’re not sure if the other person feels the same. That takes courage – that is a hero.
What about working long shifts at work in order to be able to provide for your family, even though you know it’s not enough. You secretly think you’re a loser who will never be able to sufficiently provide for your family. Well, you’re a hero. You go out every day and give it your best. You most likely put yourself last, always.
Do you know who else I believe are heroes?
People who are disabled, but still manage to get through the day, because they are glad to be alive. Hero!
People who come home to their families when they have just been told: “You don’t work here anymore.” Hero!
To the mom who looks in the mirror and wonders where that little girl went? The one who dreamed of prince charming being her hero. Well, believe me, your kids believe you are that superhero.
But why don’t we celebrate the everyday hero?
A hero is someone who has the courage that comes from within. The fight goes on inside us all. It’s the fight to believe that we have what it takes to get through the day.
It is the women who know going to work every day means she might not be there for her children when they arrive home from school. It is the mother who might miss tucking them into bed at night. Who tiptoes into the bedroom and pull up the blankets against their tiny little bodies, brushes their hair back and whispers, ” I love you” as a tear slides down their cheek because they miss them so much. Hero for sure.
To the women who go hungry, because there’s not enough food in the house. You, my dear, are a hero.
To the woman who doesn’t have children and is ok with that. You are a hero because you’re able to speak and live in your truth, even though you might face some criticism.
To the women, like myself, who have lost children and now speak to them, as angels. You are a hero. You hold your head up when all you really want to do is lay down and cry and pray.
We are all heroes, we all beat to the same heart. We all have lessons and challenges to go through, hopefully with grace. But we are all the same, we are each other’s heroes. Someone somewhere is looking to you for strength. I know it can be difficult, but try to remember that when those dark days come flooding into your life. You are a hero. Someone looks up to you. It could be your child, it could be your spouse, your parent, your colleague and it also could be yourself searching for a miracle to brighten your dark days.
Look around you and see the everyday heroes in your life. Great job everyone!
This week I don’t have a top 5, as I truly believe we are all a hero in some way, and it is up to us to see the value we truly hold. What is your definition of a hero? I would love to read your comments.
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