I heard this question the other day, “do we lack social skills today?” Everyone is probably wondering the samething especially if you’re over a certain age. The way we communicate and interact with each other is constantly changing. Good or bad I don’t really think it matters, it’s all on how you look things. As with many things it can be used for good or bad, it all comes down to the user.

This month is all about Social. We feel it’s an important branch in our lives. It’s necessary to evolve and grow beyond what we were yesterday. It’s the way we communicate and share,.We share to others to help one another but somewhere along the way we end up using it for showing off. Which can be beneficial but again it all depends on the user.

What is being social to you? That is the better question here. We don’t have all the answers here, we just want to shine a little light on a few different things that maybe you haven’t thought of before. Our little light are just sparks and they either take or they don’t the choice is yours.

Are you an outgoing person who needs to be in the light? Are you walking into other people’s light or are you able to bring your own. This is quite common in social settings, you will notice some seem to stand out more than others. They are just more in their own light which can be authentic confidence in knowing who they are and the direction they are going in life or it’s full of, well you know what. Which one are you drawn to? Chances are you drawn to the one you are more alike. Ouch, that one hurt a little.

I myself have noticed this over the years out and about in social settings and although I noticed those who seem to have great confidence, I ended up with the others. And it’s in this very moment that I understand why. I had not yet discovered my own self worth, therefore I didn’t have much value to put into anything.

Remember no one can pull you down if they are ahead of you. In other words, if someone is trying to pull you down, it’s because they are behind you. If you want to help them, then it’s a hand up, never let anyone pull you down.

We’ve all heard that saying, you are who you hang out with. I agree with this, but I am the one who needs to change. And sometimes it’s not enough to want to hang out with different people. We have to become who we want to hang out with first. Or in the very least know the direction you want to be going in.

Are you only social online? Are you socializing in person? Do you socialize sober or do you need something?

All this month we will share different ways to go past your comfort zone when it comes to being social.

First of all what do you consider a bad thing?
We all have a different view on it however when it comes to someone taking the life of another we have a tendency to pay attention. Or at least we use to.

Let’s face it we now live in a society where it is normal to see someone die.
Just for a fun fact, count how many days in a row that you have not seen someone die or who are dead?

This shows up daily for most of us. It’s all over the news. It’s in the games we play. The movies we watch with such delight. In the books we read. We discuss it with others in great debates on how it happened and our opinion on why. Some conversations whether out loud to another or one that stays inside your head sometimes comes up with possible solutions. And within those conversations is it about taking another life?

Now within those places you view death is there someone being rewarded for doing so?
Within our school systems we teach our young all about our hero’s of our days gone by. We teach them how they killed many and of course there was a really good reason, chances are we had something to save and protect. It was us against them and the strongest seemed to survived and be rewarded for such behaviour. Does that knowledge ever leave us? In case you might forget we have holidays to celebrate and we have statues to remind us. Decades and decades later we are still celebrating this.

Big question here, don’t we all want to be remembered? Don’t we all want to have a legacy? How do we define killing someone? Isn’t a life a life? Before you attack me here listen for just a little bit longer. I can hear you say, yeah but someone people are mean and evil. Sure, OK but I am more curious about the why. We all have the same amount of good and bad within us. What makes one come out more than the other?

It wasn’t too long ago that we all rallied together in a time of tragedy and it didn’t have to be a major disaster to do so. It was when we actually knew who our neighbours were and we gathered together, working together for something greater than ourselves. We interacted more with each other. Yes, I know we interact with each other perhaps more these days but there is a huge difference on interacting with someone in person then online. There is an energy in person that cannot be hidden or intercepted. When we interact online in any fashion our energy is not being directed to the other person because there’s energy in the device we use. In person you can actually feel. And this has very little to do with people being fake online. We are all seeking attention and recognition for who we are. Who we portray ourselves to be is a whole other thing, There’s something to be said for being real and it’s pretty hard to hide when you’re in person.

Anyways the way we interact these days has a lot to do with the change in what happens in our communities. 
We have isolated ourselves and are attempting to interact through a device wanting a human connection. 

To try and make ourselves feel better we will turn outward towards anything else other than ourselves. We have a great deal of difficulty facing our own fears so instead we will turn to the ones that have been created for us. We will watch the news, we will play games, watch videos etc. And what is it that you’re actually watching? This is consumption, it’s no different on what you put into your body. Does it nourish you or make you ill?

I hate to the bearer of more bad news but the violence we are currently experiencing is only going to get worse if we don’t learn to be honest with ourselves, ask for help and learn to communication and reconnect to each other. As I always say, communication, connection, collaboration and communities are the most important features to a fulfilled life. Without it we resort to other avenues to reach any of these we feel are missing. I know this to be true because I’ve done it myself through every possible addiction there is. Which one are you missing out on?

We not only need to communicate to our neighbours but first we must be able to be honest with ourselves. Forgive yourself for not knowing any better then passing it on.
You do matter and the world needs you.