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The heart of human excellence often begins to beat when you discover a pursuit that absorbs you, frees you, challenges you, or gives you a sense of meaning, joy, or passion.” — Terry Orlick

I love that quote! It is so true – discovering your purpose in life, letting go of the things that no longer serve you and embracing the things that do, will give you a reason to get up every day and this is pure happiness. I think it all begins with celebrating you! Discovering that passion by making sure you are in the right mindset.

Here are my top ways to celebrate me – every day. It is time to stop putting yourself at the bottom of the pile and to stop saving things for a special occasion. You are here now and every day you are on this earth should be valued and celebrated!


Here are my top 5 ways of celebrating me, every day.

  1. Sleep routine – make sure you go to bed and wake up at the same time. Get into the habit of turning your phone off, keeping it out of the bedroom. If you have a television in your bedroom, remove it.
  2. Eat healthy food, food that nourishes you. If you’re wondering what that looks like. Eat as many colours as you can. The non-processed kind. What does processed food look like? Read this. Drink plenty of water
  3. Move your body. If you’re in pain the best thing for you to do is to move. Stretch it over pushing it. I much prefer a good stretch, for example, yoga over something that is going to be hard on my body. Exercise should not be a punishment, it is to celebrate that you have a body that moves. It’s designed for it. So now use it.
  4. Clean up your environment. What I mean by this is to clean up your space around you. Your car, your home, your workplace. Is it cluttered and disorganized? Give yourself the gift of a clean space and celebrate you. Hire outside help if you need it – don’t feel guilty!
  5. Detox your friend’s list. Do you have people around you that make you feel guilty for not calling them? Does seeing that person stress you out? Some people come into our lives and they are there forever because of mutual love, interests, and enjoyment. Others come into our lives perhaps at a time when you need them, and unfortunately, you may grow apart or your mutual interests change. These people served a time and a place and it’s now time to let them go so they grow in another direction. Look at it this way, you might also be holding them back because they’re growing in a way that’s not aligned with you anymore. Your paths crossed and now it’s time to move on. You can love some people from a distance and this also includes family members too.

In summary, in order to move forward in your life, you need to change your mindset, let go of people or situations that no longer serve you and truly sit down with yourself for a long-overdue talk. Make a plan, a routine. Work on disconnecting yourself from old grudges. Get healthy by eating nutritious foods – move that body! Get out into nature. Turn off the electronics when you go to bed. Perhaps open the window and listen to the night sounds (hopefully not a busy freeway!!). Think back to times in your life when you truly felt happy – what is different now? Make positive changes and seek help if you need it.

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Who am I to block this blessing from being shared?
Are the blessings that are housed inside of me really mine?
Isn’t it better to give than to receive?
Why do I assume my blessings are not enough?
What if giving a gift outside of myself is actually doing the selfish thing.
Why do we think we have to purchase something to give?
Isn’t the best give really what’s inside of you?

Baby, those negative words do nothing for you they are only blocking your blessings. All those judgments you fling around and hit others.. who are you to be blocking someone else’s blessing from being shared. .. Listen to those whispers inside…slowly it will be louder and soon it will turn into music and then your song is playing everywhere.. you will be able to hear it everywhere and in everything..

Like a radio you are a particular station and only you are able to give on this station and the audience is infinite..everyone who needs it is waiting to hear your song. But all you have been doing is hiding, it’s like you’re holding the mute button down but that mute button is only on your radio not everyone else’s. They can still her your song but it’s not the one blessing one that’s waiting to come out. Your message and sound still go everywhere and to everyone but you are the only one who is holding the mute button our radio everyone else has theirs off and are waiting.

When I am doing something I love no matter the glory or the lack of it why would I ever stop doing it?

Stop needing more than what you’ve already been given.

To give someone the gift of leaving.. wow what a concept.

I have been writing this morning about those who left me.

Those in my life whom I never wanted to go and yet they left me. The great pain they caused and how different my life would have been if they stayed. All this time I have viewed it as something negative and extremely hurtful to me. For many of them I had no control (which I never do but sometimes I think do) on them staying and not for the lack of me trying.

I have always had this fear of being alone and thought it was a form of punishment that they left me but today I view it as the best gift ever.

For me I believe they all love me in a way I could not understand until now. They left me in the only way I could understand at the time. More than likely in pain and anger because that is where I was at the time. But they all knew something that I didn’t, they knew I would been all this space and so called alone time to actually figure this out (kind of).

I need all this space because of the span of my wings. They believed in me when I didn’t.

I am actually moved to tears in this moment writing this because I can truly see this as the best gift ever. 

They also believed that I was strong enough to be alone and that I would recover. They new my strength when I was only doubting it but they help me prove that I could handle it.

They somehow knew that they would weigh me down.. they all knew this. They knew I needed to fly.

Up to this very moment I had thought they all hurt me and although at the time it did cause me some pain. (OK maybe a LOT) but I did survive and went onto thrive even just a little.

Look where I am. (currently 2017 living in Ottawa in the south end in my today dream house)

I have no distractions and unlimited space and the means to create anything I desire. I am supported by the world and beyond.

Those who are “different” are only expanding the Universe which is always happening but it is those who seem to be different than the rest who are examples of what is possible. We are the manifested dreams from those who came before us. 

We are left alone to expand our wings and to fly above and soar into the unknown. The people who leave us do so out of love as they know deep down that we are more and that more space is required. You see we don’t fit into this world they are living in. We sense it early on and in most cases it causes a riff in the small society we are a part of. We are different right off the bat, early in our life. Our loved ones really don’t know what to do with us, although they do their best.

I feel so blessed to be able to understand this today. I feel so honoured to be chosen to left alone for so alone. It has allowed me to connect to even more than I ever could of imagined.

Are we meant to be alone came to my thoughts? Can this be true? Could it be that what I am experiencing is what many are searching for? I have had the thought that anyone who is alone completely alone like a monk or nun who has no contact with the outside world and or who are silent are not really serving. I actually think it’s selfish to do this or that is what I had thought.

We are all beacons of light who are serving something beyond ourselves because we are only a piece of it all.

Actually I still think that..because doing the service alone only serves who? Yourself. Unless it actually allows you to discover your purpose of the being you are. So difficult to explain.

It has taken me all this time and for the rest of my life to be the example. To go beyond the expectations of this life…to spread my wings…. to soar and expand the Universe.

I have always written and it has been challenging at times but it has been my path to see this is who I am and so much more. It has allowed to me to find the Universe inside of me..that I am the Universe. That we all are. Each one of us is our own universe and each one of us is connected beyond that.

Words and being able to express them is just one small reason why I am here.

I thought it had to be something bigger like they wanted me to be but I would not stand out .. I would have just blended in and not been seen at all. Samething would of happened if those who left me would have stayed..I would of just blended in.

I love people who leave me now. Wow.

Once I got what other people are doing out of my head I could actually find my own way.

Here we go.

First of all what do you consider a bad thing?
We all have a different view on it however when it comes to someone taking the life of another we have a tendency to pay attention. Or at least we use to.

Let’s face it we now live in a society where it is normal to see someone die.
Just for a fun fact, count how many days in a row that you have not seen someone die or who are dead?

This shows up daily for most of us. It’s all over the news. It’s in the games we play. The movies we watch with such delight. In the books we read. We discuss it with others in great debates on how it happened and our opinion on why. Some conversations whether out loud to another or one that stays inside your head sometimes comes up with possible solutions. And within those conversations is it about taking another life?

Now within those places you view death is there someone being rewarded for doing so?
Within our school systems we teach our young all about our hero’s of our days gone by. We teach them how they killed many and of course there was a really good reason, chances are we had something to save and protect. It was us against them and the strongest seemed to survived and be rewarded for such behaviour. Does that knowledge ever leave us? In case you might forget we have holidays to celebrate and we have statues to remind us. Decades and decades later we are still celebrating this.

Big question here, don’t we all want to be remembered? Don’t we all want to have a legacy? How do we define killing someone? Isn’t a life a life? Before you attack me here listen for just a little bit longer. I can hear you say, yeah but someone people are mean and evil. Sure, OK but I am more curious about the why. We all have the same amount of good and bad within us. What makes one come out more than the other?

It wasn’t too long ago that we all rallied together in a time of tragedy and it didn’t have to be a major disaster to do so. It was when we actually knew who our neighbours were and we gathered together, working together for something greater than ourselves. We interacted more with each other. Yes, I know we interact with each other perhaps more these days but there is a huge difference on interacting with someone in person then online. There is an energy in person that cannot be hidden or intercepted. When we interact online in any fashion our energy is not being directed to the other person because there’s energy in the device we use. In person you can actually feel. And this has very little to do with people being fake online. We are all seeking attention and recognition for who we are. Who we portray ourselves to be is a whole other thing, There’s something to be said for being real and it’s pretty hard to hide when you’re in person.

Anyways the way we interact these days has a lot to do with the change in what happens in our communities. 
We have isolated ourselves and are attempting to interact through a device wanting a human connection. 

To try and make ourselves feel better we will turn outward towards anything else other than ourselves. We have a great deal of difficulty facing our own fears so instead we will turn to the ones that have been created for us. We will watch the news, we will play games, watch videos etc. And what is it that you’re actually watching? This is consumption, it’s no different on what you put into your body. Does it nourish you or make you ill?

I hate to the bearer of more bad news but the violence we are currently experiencing is only going to get worse if we don’t learn to be honest with ourselves, ask for help and learn to communication and reconnect to each other. As I always say, communication, connection, collaboration and communities are the most important features to a fulfilled life. Without it we resort to other avenues to reach any of these we feel are missing. I know this to be true because I’ve done it myself through every possible addiction there is. Which one are you missing out on?

We not only need to communicate to our neighbours but first we must be able to be honest with ourselves. Forgive yourself for not knowing any better then passing it on.
You do matter and the world needs you.

Who do we really think a hero is?

A hero comes home from fighting, or a long journey where he had to fight a dragon as the story goes.
A hero is someone who appears to fight something outside of themselves but really I believe it’s actually a fight that goes on inside of us.
When you can’t seem to get out of bed in the morning because you believe there’s nothing in this world for you. But when you step onto the floor you then become a hero.
Does a hero need to be holding a gun? Do they need to belong to a group that fights others?
What about when you want to say I love you but you’re not sure if the other person feels the same. To me that’s a hero.

Do we have to have trophy’s in order to be a hero?
What about working long shifts at work in order to be able to provide for your family, even though you know it’s not enough. You secretly think you’re a loser who can never do enough. Well you’re a hero. You go out every day and give it your best.
Coming home to your family when you were told you don’t work here anymore.
Then I go to some woman whom I know who can’t even hold a pen let alone a make up eye liner, they would never even try to come that close to their with anything sharp for fear of poking out their eyes.Because their eyes are the only way they know the world. Then I thought of another person I know who walking is a challenge and never being able run or walk along with those they love. I believe these woman to be heroes.

As you wake up in the morning and begin your day you look in the mirror and wonder where did that super hero go you had always wanted to be? Well believe me your kids believe you are that super hero.
But why don’t we celebrate the everyday hero?

A hero is someone who has courage that comes from within, the fight goes on inside us all. It’s the fight to believe that there’s more courage.
As I put on my make up to make myself feel a little better about myself and to have my man take notice of me I wonder who else is doing this? I wonder if anyone else has difficulty putting on the eye liner, trying to keep a straight line along my lashes. I believe that’s how it’s suppose to go anyways.
I then thought about woman I know and I would like to admit that I have been there myself, a time when getting out of bed seemed to be the greatest obstacle in life. However once that step is taken and the feet touch the floor you’re a hero. To the mom who takes the time to brush her teeth in silence, and look in the mirror wondering where the little girl went who dreamed of prince charming is a hero. For her prince charming now calls her mom.

To the woman who knows going to work every day means she might not be there for her children when they arrive home from school and a meeting runs late and they miss tucking them into bed. For you are the hero for sure, as your tip toe into the bedroom and pull up the blankets against their tiny little bodies, brushing their hair back whispering I love you.

To the woman who goes hungry because there’s not enough food in the house, you are a hero.
To the woman who doesn’t have children and is ok with that, you’re a hero because you’re able to speak and live in your truth.
To the woman as once myself who have lost children and now speak to as angels. You are a hero, you hold your head up when all you really want to do is lay down and cry and pray why?

We are all heroes, we all beat to the same heart. We all have lessons and challenges to go through hopefully with grace. But we are all the same, we are each others heroes, someone somewhere is looking to you for strength. I know it’s hard but try to remember that when those dark days come flooding your life.

You are a hero. xo