We spend most of our waking hours at work, away from our homes, working for someone else.
It is in our workspace that we are rewarded the most. It’s where we get told we are doing a good job, or not, where we will get our ego’s stroked with promotions, and pay raises. During those hours we are typically at our best. We start our days by preparing for our job. Shower, get cleaned up. Heck, it’s the reason we wake up. We look our best, we act our best – for work. No wonder then that our friendships and love affairs begin at work.
Have you ever fantasized about someone at work? Stood by the office water cooler and gossiped about someone else? Perhaps hooked up, maybe even during business hours? Do you go to social events with co-workers? Are you obligated to attend social events for your job? There are team building events everywhere these days. It seems like everyone wants us to be family. I don’t know about you but, I don’t always get along with my family.
Getting along at work can sometimes be confusing. Some will take advantage of kindness, and it may be for a personal gain. Who can you trust? I have seen this time and time again. Someone thinks they are budding a new relationship, when in fact it’s their job to be nice to you and treat you well. You are paying them for a service, don’t get it twisted.
Did you meet your friends at work? Your partner? Did it come at a cost of losing some friends from your past? Did it cost you a marriage?
It’s great to have things in common outside of work and to be able to have the shared experience of working at the same place, but here’s the flip side of that coin. Have you ever been stabbed in the back by someone you trusted? People can be different when it comes to money and the thought of power.
If a new position comes up at work do you drop the friendship to fight for it?
There are so many things we could talk about when it comes to relationships and the workforce. The workplace has its woes and misguided friendships and budding romances, but what we have to remember is that it is up to us to decide where we work, how we act at work and whether or not we get swept up in the B.S.
Knowing your own value is a key component. Do you know yours? Are you selling out your friends or yourself? If you move, do your friendships come with you or will they diminish in the distance?
What’s your value? Have you ever had a bad work relationship experience that you would like to share?