Switching out toxic celebrations with positive ones simply means that I am now choosing to honour myself. I am learning to treat myself a little better. From friendships to food, if we don’t put ourselves first and show others how we deserve to be treated, then no one will.
Having a glass of wine from time to time they say is fine. But have you ever pushed it past the limits and felt regret the next morning?
It really wasn’t that much fun. I would be told that I had a good time the night before, but there were times I couldn’t even remember. How much fun is that?
Now with everyone being able to capture those moments and to have them live on forever on social media, I knew I had to change and this was one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself.
Here is a place to start with replacing toxic celebrations with positive ones:
- Replace alcoholic beverages with a soda – dress it up! Add fruit, a fancy glass. My favourite was a ginger ale with cranberry. Now, when I am out, I order water with lemon and no straw. If I really want to be fancy then I will order a virgin caesar. If you still would like a drink, have a full 8-ounce glass of water in between drinks!
- Instead of going to the pub to eat, have an intimate dinner at home. This allows you to take your time and have real conversations with people YOU choose to be with and not people you run into when you are out. Heck order in, if you don’t want to cook.
- Replace unhealthy food with better options. For example, when baking I replaced sugar with maple syrup or honey or even use applesauce. If I have potato chips, I try to go for the vegetable tray instead and use hummus as opposed to store-bought chip dip. This is still a challenge for me, I have to admit.
- Replace some curse words with some cute things. Like “son of a soda cracker” or “holy sheep manure” “fire truck” is another one. This doesn’t necessarily stop me from being upset with whatever is going on, but I am more aware now of what comes out of my mouth. I also stopped using the word “quit” because I am no quitter.
Words have power.
In summary, choose positive friends. People who focus on the good in the world and not the bad. “Debbie Downers” are no fun to be around and seem to enjoy bringing you down with them! Stay away from people who like to gossip, stay close to people who are kind, fun, and mind their own business.
Practice gratitude – DAILY!! Believe in Karma, and send out your desires to the Universe! This quote says it all!
“When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you.” ― Shannon L. Alder
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